CNA article on things to organise when you are alive
Death of a loved one is devastatingly painful and often characterised by losses and changes. Besides the loss of connection and future plans shared, bereaved individuals are dealt with changes to lifestyle and routines that they now have to navigate in the absence of their person. When death (whether expected or sudden) occurs, there are post-death tasks that become necessary, in addition to the grief and bereavement which are completely human responses to significant losses. These taken together can take a massive toll on bereaved individuals.
I was recently invited to contribute to a Channel News Asia (CNA) lifestyle article entitled: "Everyone needs a death to-do list – here are 25 things to sort out while you're alive" which organised a to-do list as part of planning before one's death. Such planning can be seen as an attempt to reduce psychological burden experienced by the bereaved loved ones or caregivers when the time comes, allowing more energy towards other challenges as they navigate their lives without deceased. I also see this as an open communication between the deceased and their loved ones - which can potentially reduce conflicts and misunderstanding among the bereaved family members. For the dying (especially those who may be anticipating death given terminal diagnosis for instance), they may feel at ease that they did what they can and perhaps, then able to direct the remaining and limited resources (time and energy) to what is essential such as, creating memories with loved ones and/or pursuing interests.
In Singapore, like most Asian societies, death and grief are considered taboo topics and hence, conversations around death planning can evoke fear and uncertainty, in turn resulting in individuals who may be reluctant to broach it. Having adequate knowledge about what one can do while one is alive is essential and so, this article with the suggested to-do list may be a place we start further conversations on this topic. Self reflections and discussions around the “why” of such advance planning may be necessary to do, as this act needs to be a decision motivated by one’s own values and needs. Like mentioned in the article as well, one step at a time. Not every item in the list may apply to you and that is fine. And if you require additional support along the way to brainstorm or discuss, do seek them out too.
If you are interested to read the full article on CNA lifestyle, here’s the link:
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As usual, rooting for you always.
Regards,
Jeanice
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